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Bereavement

murielm99

(31,607 posts) Mon Jan 20, 2025, 02:55 PM Jan 20

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As if this day was not bad enough, [View all]

my mother died today. She was not a nice person, but I will skip all of that for now.

She was in a nursing home. She had a guardian, who is now my personal representative because I cannot be present for many of the arrangements, which will be out of state for me. My mother died while we were in the process of selling her property to pay for her expenses. We are trying to keep things tasteful and respectful.

I know that many of you will tell me that you are sorry for my loss. That may be true later. For now, I don't know what I am.

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As if this day was not bad enough, [View all] murielm99 Jan 20 OP

It is hard to lose your mother no matter how strained your relationship was. sinkingfeeling Jan 20 #1

From what you say, all you need to do is what's next. Not the time to do more. Srkdqltr Jan 20 #2

... SheltieLover Jan 20 #3

I will just send you a hug for now, murielm.❤️ sheshe2 Jan 20 #4

Forgive and Love Yourself ZDU Jan 20 #5

... alwaysinasnit Jan 20 #6

One day, one step LoisB Jan 20 #7

Dear murielm99, just breathe today. irisblue Jan 20 #8

There is no right or wrong reaction Cirsium Jan 20 #9

That was me BonnieJW Jan 20 #20

Just do what you can, when you can. Katinfl Jan 20 #10

Holding you in love and light. How you feel is how you feel, whatever that is. niyad Jan 20 #11

Sending you hugs of support, murielm gademocrat7 Jan 20 #12

It is... Bluethroughu Jan 20 #13

From me to you William769 Jan 20 #14

I'm sorry for you IbogaProject Jan 20 #15

It's called complicated grief Chicagogrl1 Jan 20 #16

Believe me or not I understand. Hope22 Jan 20 #17

Take your time, murielm. Sparkly Jan 20 #18

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this now. yardwork Jan 20 #19

Understood. 🫶🏽 blm Jan 20 #21

Not many of us get the parents we wanted or felt we were entitled to. I was lucky. 3Hotdogs Jan 20 #22

Feel what you feel XanaDUer2 Jan 20 #23

There might be some small memories that you will treasure Delmette2.0 Jan 20 #24

Yes to this Unwind Your Mind Jan 21 #30

Take care of yourself, murielm. brer cat Jan 21 #25

End of life is such a confusing time that distorts thinking bucolic_frolic Jan 21 #26

I will pray for strength for you to get through this tough time, muriel99. Diamond_Dog Jan 21 #27

I'm sorry you have to deal with this murielm99. Clouds Passing Jan 21 #28

I understand what you mean Then again, strained Dark n Stormy Knight Sunday #31

I understand Unwind Your Mind Jan 21 #29