I just read a quote on Reddit in a response by a random person that is hitting me like a ton of bricks.

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36. Wait... Are you saying your mom (and your brother) expect...

"I will have to provide for the utilities and all the stuff that goes in to running a house including cooking and cleaning"

You are expected to pay for all of that, and pay someone to do the cooking, cleaning, or come, and do it yourself?

Well (and please excuse me)...

Oh, Hell, NO!!!
[Hey, I'm a brash NYC'r at times]

Please listen to me...
(We're [DU] IS pulling for you!)

Despite this....

"But my religion taught me to obey my parents? They gave me life.".

Oh, deb... They’re still abusing you emotionally, and now potentially financially (and physically if they want you to do the cooking, and cleaning as well!)

They're using (IMHO) your (I'm assuming, not always a good thing) devotion to Master Jesus (hey, I'm ex-Catholic, but Jesus was/is a Spiritual Master) to make you feel obligated to do this stuff!

Jesus pushed back at times!

They gave you life but, then abused you. What kind of life is that?

Right now - you need to be there for yourself, and Rich! To enjoy your life together!

With all the crap they've handed you - I pretty much say: You. Owe. Them. NOTHING.
Or do as little as possible for them if you must, and I mean Little! Ignore them, otherwise. I understand it's not easy!

I have a daar, dear 🥰 friend from Art Collge 1971 - 54 years(!). She's a devote Catholic (you know, I'm going to be embarrassed if you turn out to be Jewish - I grew up in a 2/3rds Jewish nabe 👍 ). At one point she finally had enough of taking guff from a then dear friend who'd get on their high horse time after time for a good while; finally said, "Enough!", and walked away.

I Sure Hope you don't take this as yelling, or something at you.
I just Hate Bullies!

Luckily, a rare experience for me in my 71 1/2 years, but I've heard about, seen, and read enough to know about them.

You; a kind, and interesting person (your question threads are fun, interesting). You deserve better. {hug}