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33. Marthe48 that is fine if the people you are dealing with are somewhat sane. I made the mistake of sending my family a

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Thu Dec 26, 2024, 09:09 PM

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card with a check. It was a disaster. They in need of a ride to their county seat. Neither my husband not I could do it. She told me the house would go to my brother and I would be in charge of property taxes, school taxes and utilities and food For both my house and my siblings house. I can't financially do it and the memories of the family abuse is still a trigger. But God says obey your parents. and they gave me life.

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I just read a quote on Reddit in a response by a random person that is hitting me like a ton of bricks. [View all] LuckyCharms Dec 26 OP

You don't always get a medal for confronting it. Renew Deal Dec 26 #1

You may not get a medal but at least you tried. n/t defacto7 Dec 26 #4

To what end? LuckyCharms Dec 26 #5

I'm sad for your situation. defacto7 Dec 26 #10

There are times to walk away as well. LuckyCharms Dec 26 #11

Something I learned the hard way... Think. Again. Dec 26 #2

Well, there goes the turning the other cheek idea. n/t defacto7 Dec 26 #6

Sometimes when you turn the other cheek... LuckyCharms Dec 26 #8

True n/t defacto7 Dec 26 #12

Thats what i tell family, turning the other cheek only got me beat up. txwhitedove Dec 26 #13

That's very true debm55 Dec 26 #15

Um, that's exactly the implication of the expression. royable Dec 26 #25

Right. That's the original meaning of Christ's teachings... LuckyCharms Dec 26 #27

and again and again and again. debm55 Dec 26 #30

Absolutely. Think. Again. Dec 26 #9

I think that turning the other cheek is too often wnylib Dec 30 #43

Perfect. n/t LuckyCharms Dec 26 #7

That is a mich shrter ans sweeter way to say it soldierant Dec 26 #37

Amen!!! Demovictory9 Dec 26 #3

We cut off both sides. They are not happy with us. onecaliberal Dec 26 #14

Best bet is to walk away and stay away. You won't get an award but your life will be much more peaceful. camartinwv Dec 26 #16

Quiet leaving or ghosting. erronis Dec 26 #18

Not me. I take no... littlemissmartypants Dec 26 #24

Maybe this is a good place to put this Marthe48 Dec 26 #17

I'm glad you're letting us know what happened and the grief it caused. erronis Dec 26 #20

Thank you for understanding Marthe48 Dec 26 #21

Marthe48 that is fine if the people you are dealing with are somewhat sane. I made the mistake of sending my family a debm55 Dec 26 #33

Wait... Are you saying your mom (and your brother) expect... electric_blue68 Dec 26 #36

But my religion taught me to obey my parents? They gave me life.". Demobrat Dec 26 #38

Sorry , Marthe48 I didn't mean to post to you. Dont know what to do now. As I meant to post to LuckyCharms. I am sorry. debm55 Dec 26 #34

Say it often and loud! Abuse is destroying this world, individually and globally! Clouds Passing Dec 26 #19

This is like "History will not be kind to so and so...", once we are dead we don't care what happens because we don't Escurumbele Dec 26 #22

Legacy mamacita75 Dec 26 #31

We're all abused now... littlemissmartypants Dec 26 #23

Depending, I return in kind Zackzzzz Dec 26 #26

This is true, but you know what else you don't get an award for? BEING hurt in the first place. AZJonnie Dec 26 #28

You know who you sound like, right? ReRe Dec 26 #29

I am not worthy ... AZJonnie Dec 30 #40

Of course you're worthy! ReRe Dec 30 #41

Just curious mamacita75 Dec 26 #32

I had the luxury of 'non-awareness' in formulating my response AZJonnie Dec 30 #42

LuckyCharms post 33 was for you . I mistakenly posted to Marthe48 debm55 Dec 26 #35

I've had certain sentences that have resonated or spoken to me that I took notice Niagara Dec 27 #39