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BainsBane

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63. The peanut gallery and the hidden post

Sun Nov 24, 2013, 11:28 PM

Nov 2013

We don't need a post in a SAFE HAVEN group to remind us about rape. 20-25% of women in this country have been raped. One in three women have been physically assaulted by their partners. We're told we're supposed to accept rape porn and even violence in our actual lives because we supposedly "like it." They show it in the pornos. It must be true.

What pisses is off are rapists and those who defile our discussions about violence against women in an effort to silence us. Rape culture hinges on keeping victims and survivors quiet and shamed about sexual assault. The determination of some to propagate that culture truly is astounding.

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tx gal said it. "And people wonder why Women in general are pissed off. " [View all] seabeyond Nov 2013 OP

one rape of a child where the 41 yr old man was let go... too many. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #1

Only a woman would understand. liberalmuse Nov 2013 #2

that post should be a thread starter LittleGirl Nov 2013 #6

12 yrs old in the lunch cafteria line. some boy, matt, decided what the hell, and sticks his fingers seabeyond Nov 2013 #7

Yup. Been zentrum Nov 2013 #37

just ... so wrong. and so wrong, after all this progress and knowledge our girls are still seabeyond Nov 2013 #44

LOVE this video. Very cool. zentrum Nov 2013 #105

zentrum, i am sorry i missed this post earlier. thank you so much for bringing it into this thread, seabeyond Dec 2013 #119

Thanks for viewing it and zentrum Dec 2013 #127

One guy at work once told me he had a right to rape me hollysmom Nov 2013 #3

and the women that go along and support this garbage. what? is it that they have been abused and seabeyond Nov 2013 #8

I needed that job, like many people do, hollysmom Nov 2013 #18

that is something i have forgotten in all the porn threads. how often men use porn to intimidate or seabeyond Nov 2013 #22

Sea, those rapes can't compare to the oppression of a rape prevention PSA BainsBane Nov 2013 #4

boggles the mind. truly. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #9

The hidden post below BainsBane Nov 2013 #43

talking about me obsessing about rape? that post below? i had another man accuse me last night, or seabeyond Nov 2013 #49

Sea, you're not supposed to talk about rape BainsBane Nov 2013 #55

Rape is a perfectly acceptable topic for porn, but not for women to talk about... seabeyond Nov 2013 #56

Yeah - this kind of bullshit makes me want to puke. smirkymonkey Nov 2013 #100

Right on. smirkymonkey Dec 2013 #107

yes. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #120

This just outrages me. smirkymonkey Dec 2013 #116

Ugh! I am SO tired of the lack of empathy of so-called liberal men. smirkymonkey Dec 2013 #117

yes. i view men differently, after listening to so many men, that declare themselves progressives. seabeyond Dec 2013 #118

Even though this is what they are most afraid of xulamaude Dec 2013 #122

years ago i started clearly stating, this was not a repug issue but a man issue. i single voice in seabeyond Dec 2013 #125

It;s weird to me that Texasgal Nov 2013 #5

it does. then again.... it is the net. who knows what their life really is. seabeyond Nov 2013 #10

Me too, and angry Tumbulu Nov 2013 #26

and who knows how i kept mine. lol. seabeyond Dec 2013 #121

wavin... just cause i think you are a totally awesome woman. seabeyond Dec 2013 #124

Thank you! Tumbulu Dec 2013 #126

Post removed Post removed Nov 2013 #11

of course you meant to offend. so, because i hear about woman after girl after woman after girl seabeyond Nov 2013 #13

Wow. That was a good hide Scootaloo Nov 2013 #36

i was too. i would like to hear jury. i didnt alert. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #50

The peanut gallery and the hidden post BainsBane Nov 2013 #63

and now... when we speak up, we are "obsessed". kinda like repugs putting out talking points. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #65

"Why are you inventing a war on women," random GOPer BainsBane Nov 2013 #70

ya. those rape porn threads are sticking with you too, huh. lol. me, too. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #72

It's such a rude awakening xulamaude Nov 2013 #90

i had three women standing on the porch. i asked, who was raped. of the three, there were three seabeyond Nov 2013 #91

are you in steubenville? did you support the footie footie football players, not being obsessed seabeyond Nov 2013 #14

if you didn't mean to offend, then what DID you mean? BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2013 #15

dusting off hands, .... seabeyond Nov 2013 #16

you too, sea. you too! BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2013 #17

we are just looking at the sexual predators. it is thru out our life. how many times seabeyond Nov 2013 #12

Oh goodness, just trying being an unmarried woman farmer Tumbulu Nov 2013 #28

goodness is right. lol. i betcha. you dared to step into the mans world. hey.... seabeyond Nov 2013 #31

I've seen it, beautiful pictures Tumbulu Nov 2013 #32

yea. i am glad you have seen it cause i am hopeless in searching. seabeyond Nov 2013 #34

This 58 year old man believes that... MarianJack Nov 2013 #19

right on... brother. lol seabeyond Nov 2013 #23

And that crap has been going on forever. In the mid-80's there was a judge in WI, if iirc, that gave Mnemosyne Nov 2013 #73

but that was so long ago, we should have clearly progressed beyond that stupid. you are right, seabeyond Nov 2013 #75

Pitiful that we haven't progressed much at all in all this time. Mnemosyne Dec 2013 #106

I am VERY fed up with... MarianJack Nov 2013 #94

Thank you! smirkymonkey Dec 2013 #108

Rape & Pillage nahant Nov 2013 #20

minor punishment will do nothing but further the rape culture.. seabeyond Nov 2013 #24

Too many men cannot recognize assertiveness lexington filly Nov 2013 #21

excellent post. and maybe that is a lot of what it is. seabeyond Nov 2013 #25

Yes, women are pissed off and have every right to be. sheshe2 Nov 2013 #27

mine too Tumbulu Nov 2013 #29

you, the gentlest of all... use the p word. that is pissed. seabeyond Nov 2013 #33

seabeyond, you must have me confused with someone else. sheshe2 Nov 2013 #62

lol. you seem to have such patience, and you are always so so so nice to me. lol. seabeyond Nov 2013 #67

seabeyond, they can not take from us. sheshe2 Nov 2013 #88

wow. perfect. i needed to hear this song. perfect. seabeyond Nov 2013 #89

Sorry I missed this video the first time you posted it. In_The_Wind Nov 2013 #95

Good morning In_The_Wind. sheshe2 Nov 2013 #96

It's a very cold morning sheshe2. In_The_Wind Nov 2013 #97

Thank you, In_The_Wind~ sheshe2 Nov 2013 #98

Almost every single woman I have known demigoddess Nov 2013 #30

i can remember at three and just vaguely. mom and i went to a neighbor womans house. somehow i got seabeyond Nov 2013 #38

You can say some men don't get it. iandhr Nov 2013 #35

went back and checked. nope. didnt say all. we have great men on du that are very loud voices seabeyond Nov 2013 #39

That group is far from representative BainsBane Nov 2013 #47

true that. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #52

I donlt think anyone has said Texasgal Nov 2013 #40

"men... why the hell are YOU not perpetually outraged." iandhr Nov 2013 #42

men does not mean all men. and really, since i was talking about the mens forum, that is on our ass seabeyond Nov 2013 #54

understood. iandhr Nov 2013 #77

thank you. do know, we all love our men. we appreciate each and every one that add their voice to seabeyond Nov 2013 #80

We know ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #45

give your hubby a hug for me tonight and tell him it is from sea in amarillo. and thanks for doing seabeyond Nov 2013 #57

I will ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #60

and then tell me if he says... sea in amarillo? isnt that texas? there is no sea in amarillo. seabeyond Nov 2013 #68

as the saying goes, "if you are not outraged, you are not paying attention". I am paying attention niyad Nov 2013 #41

yes yes yes, i remember you all coming up with your outrage names. me, i wasnt creative enough. lol seabeyond Nov 2013 #58

I regret not keeping up with this group... defacto7 Nov 2013 #46

frame it. another brother. do you remember a time when we were sisters and brothers? i do. seabeyond Nov 2013 #64

you know what the worst about thsoe rape porn threads were? imagine all the women on du that have seabeyond Nov 2013 #71

That is what I find so disgusting. They can't seem to get it through their dense skulls why we smirkymonkey Nov 2013 #103

If I discovered any man in my life watched that shit I would have nothing to do with them, CrispyQ Dec 2013 #109

+1 nt PassingFair Dec 2013 #112

Great post! I have become so disheartened within the last few years. smirkymonkey Nov 2013 #101

Oh, but didn't Republican Todd Akin say "rape is a blessing?" Rozlee Nov 2013 #48

yes yes yes yes yes yes yes. you know? and they say it right out loud. for every person that has seabeyond Nov 2013 #74

Heartfelt. Real. Makes me tear up. Makes me ball up my fists. Mira Nov 2013 #51

oh mira... what a wonderfully perfect post. tahnk you so much for putting it exactly as you did seabeyond Nov 2013 #76

When men rape women then blame women when women report it....including law enforcement Triana Nov 2013 #53

i didnt SEE that thread. didnt see didnt see. fuck. mra puts out 45-75% rape claims false seabeyond Nov 2013 #79

My brother is an mra. Triana Nov 2013 #86

ya. i got a knuckle dragger too. love him to pieces. as soon as he starts i tell him to seabeyond Nov 2013 #87

I don't look at the men's forum ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #59

i am going to have to check out your links. triana had some interesting ones also. one very seabeyond Nov 2013 #81

A personal message to seabeyond Mira Nov 2013 #61

+1000 ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #66

my son told me the other day... the best compliment ever, seabeyond Nov 2013 #82

Most of us are doing everything we have time to do. I KNOW it's not enough.... BlueJazz Nov 2013 #69

thank you blue.... nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #83

FUCKING HELL YEAH. Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2013 #78

right on sister... RISE.... seabeyond Nov 2013 #84

UP !!!! Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2013 #85

Me too ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #92

well, I don't have anyone on Ignore but, It is there if I need it and I WILL use it if I see a need. Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2013 #93

And there's more... Chalco Nov 2013 #99

I WILL NEVER SHUT UP CrispyQ Dec 2013 #110

Your post reminded me of the amazingly excellent Urban Dictionary entry for "misandry" redqueen Dec 2013 #111

checking in, male and perpetually outraged. unblock Nov 2013 #102

oh, you gave me a much need giggle... thank you, perpetual. appreciate it. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #104

why I am pissed mercuryblues Dec 2013 #113

i am off du. but, had to post to say, thank you.... i hear ya. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #114

+1000 nt xulamaude Dec 2013 #115

All of this just outrages me beyond belief. smirkymonkey Dec 2013 #123