Loners

Peregrine Took

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22. Obviously I'm of two minds. I'm a loner all my life but I wish I had a few close friends.

Tue Dec 13, 2011, 05:12 PM

Dec 2011

It just doesn't work out for me so I better get used to it and stop trying to force things.

I have to be more like my older brother who is totally by himself (he doesn't like me either!) but I have to admire that he doesn't need anyone.

He's retired, is very intelligent, quite a reader and library goer. He spends all holidays by himself by his choice and says he's very content and I believe him.
He gave up booze many years ago and, aside from some health problems, he is captain of his own ship and proud of it. He rolled up the welcome mat years ago as he, like me, is super sensitive and was easily hurt and disappointed by people . Now he goes his own way. Even when he had a serious operation he forbade any family members to visit him (said he would curse us if we did) and walked home afterwards by himself, refusing a ride. Sounds nutty but he is oddly content.

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The older I get the more I don't enjoy being around people very much. [View all] Peregrine Took Dec 2011 OP

Are you really me? You sound exactlly like me. My wife and I have one teddy51 Dec 2011 #1

Right age range. Are we just harder to get along with in this decade? Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #13

Yes! Gotta run right now, but will be back to edit this with more later... NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #2

Yes. LiberalAndProud Dec 2011 #3

Well said. Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #14

I'm the same way... StarlightGold Jan 2012 #36

I'm grateful to time. As time passed, I became more outspoken (thank goodness) Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #4

Laughter is a great ice breaker and it soothes ever conversational "oddities." Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #15

Practicing laughter might not be a bad idea!!! Particularly if you love Leah Ramini :) Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #25

I have been an outsider most of my life. Have changed my expectations of "... a close social group." patrice Dec 2011 #5

Maybe you are younger....when I was young I had lots of acquaintances... Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #16

Sounds a lot like my husband and me nadine_mn Dec 2011 #6

I know what you mean about that BFF to do things with... Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #17

Leave me with my dogs and I'm fine, even on a bad day. People, not so much. eom Purveyor Dec 2011 #7

I guess I would be considered a terrible person but I do prefer animals to people ++++ Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #18

My worst day with my dogs (ie total mayhem/destruction of sofa) is better than my best day w/ humans nadine_mn Dec 2011 #20

I worked for a woman who saw them as just animals. CrispyQ Dec 2011 #28

Sounds like me with my cat! My cat and I are best of friends. RKP5637 Jan 2012 #34

ditto. n/t. okieinpain Dec 2011 #8

I'm the same way. Speck Tater Dec 2011 #9

I guess I'm needier than you are but I'm trying to change! Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #19

Maybe I forogt to mention this, but I DO have a teddy bear. :) nt Speck Tater Dec 2011 #24

You're lucky to live fairly close to your sibs/mother shanti Dec 2011 #26

Thanks. russspeakeasy Dec 2011 #10

I don't mind humanity all that much, it's people that get on my last nerve. I have little monmouth Dec 2011 #11

Obviously I'm of two minds. I'm a loner all my life but I wish I had a few close friends. Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #22

I understand. eilen Dec 2011 #12

I can echo much of what you say - esp hot/cold nadine_mn Dec 2011 #21

Restaurants are a much easier get together, I agree. Peregrine Took Dec 2011 #23

We must have been separated at birth! FLyellowdog Dec 2011 #30

Well, then I am in trouble, because you sound just like me and I am 29. iris27 Dec 2011 #27

Wow.......others just like me......:) Scottybeamer70 Dec 2011 #29

WOW...didn't realize there were so many of us... Zoigal Dec 2011 #31

We don't do holidays. CrispyQ Dec 2011 #32

I think sometimes one reaches the point where they get tired of the BS in life. It seems RKP5637 Jan 2012 #33

Wow, you all sound like me. Still Blue in PDX Jan 2012 #35

I'm 26... LoveMeLoveYou Feb 2012 #37

I have never liked people very much. MadrasT Feb 2012 #38

I'm much younger, but I feel much the same. shcrane71 Feb 2012 #39

My experiences with people horrify and scar me.. people where I live anyway. stuntcat Feb 2012 #40

I "divorced" my entire toxic family years ago...it's been great! dixiegrrrrl Feb 2012 #41

I have "divorced" everyone on my life who is toxic. MadrasT Feb 2012 #42

Makes a hell of a difference, doesn't it? dixiegrrrrl Feb 2012 #43

Unfortunately I am still a corporate wage slave. MadrasT Feb 2012 #44

I'm so glad for the internet stuntcat Feb 2012 #45

what took you so long to figure it out? Skittles Jun 2012 #46

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Two instances stand out clearly in my mind. Trunk Monkey Aug 2012 #59

Interesting thread, Trunk Monkey Aug 2012 #60

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