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Coping with Divorce or Separation

-misanthroptimist

(1,169 posts)

14. Maybe I'm just old...

Reply to babydollhead (Original post)

Fri Mar 26, 2021, 11:22 PM

Mar 2021

...but dumping someone by email or text just seems really chickenshit to me. Ever more so in the case of a 30+ year relationship. Totally cowardly.

I can't help out much on your main point, though, other than to say I think that I would probably just go do something for myself as a distraction for a bit. Let the raw feelings simmer down some and proceed from there. Don't know if that's helpful to you or not.

Either way, best wishes to you. You'll get through it.

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anybody here? I just got dumped via email from my husband of 30 years [View all] babydollhead Mar 2021 OP

Not exactly in that manner but I lived through a divorce Boydog Mar 2021 #1

thank you babydollhead Mar 2021 #19

I'm so sorry this happened to you soothsayer Mar 2021 #2

I was blindsided. babydollhead Mar 2021 #20

If I hadn't gotten dumped by my first husband, I would not have found the broiles Mar 2021 #3

what a terribly shitty thing for him to do. Dyedinthewoolliberal Mar 2021 #4

it was out of the blue babydollhead Mar 2021 #18

I am Sorry Mary in S. Carolina Mar 2021 #5

I was ambush served with papers by my ex. At 29 years I thought we were doing OK. mn9driver Mar 2021 #6

Modern world Dear John Email Streaming divorce next Hope things get better for you rickyhall Mar 2021 #7

Dumped by email - that is cold and cowardly. Marie Marie Mar 2021 #8

sending hugs to you,,,, KarenS Mar 2021 #9

In my case it took two years to get over it Cicada Mar 2021 #10

What the fuck? vercetti2021 Mar 2021 #11

Happened to me 10 years ago after 40 years of marriage zeusdogmom Mar 2021 #12

Wow. I'm going through a breakup right now too. Lunabell Mar 2021 #13

Maybe I'm just old... -misanthroptimist Mar 2021 #14

Oh geez that is terrible. PortTack Mar 2021 #15

WTF ! Save the email for your lawyer don't trash it in anger or anything luckone Mar 2021 #16

Sending you 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 MLAA Mar 2021 #17

2 weeks before Christmas got a note in the mail box. multigraincracker Mar 2021 #21

I got shanked after 30 years. CentralMass Mar 2021 #22

I'm so sorry. Just make sure you get everything you need financially. If he's the kind Scrivener7 Mar 2021 #23

Please go over to a website called chumplady.com and read it all. I'm happily married, but Nay Mar 2021 #24

thank you. babydollhead Mar 2021 #27

Freeze accounts and open a new checking account. You don't know what he's done now, but stop Hestia Mar 2021 #25

thank you. babydollhead Mar 2021 #29

I bet it is scary. Sorry that this happened to you. JanMichael May 2024 #33

I'm so sorry AwakeAtLast Mar 2021 #26

that is so horrible what happened to you. babydollhead Mar 2021 #28

My first marriage lasted less than nine months. RipVanWinkle Jun 2022 #30

thank you babydollhead Jun 2022 #31

there is a lot to say about this, but I'll keep it to the point. Layzeebeaver Mar 2024 #32

I don't regret the divorce, I regret the time wasted... Theresa Santini Oct 11 #34