Daughter, A, asked me to return to her in NJ,

[elleng]

after was there over the weekend for her son's 2d birthday party. Wants my 'help,' no details.

Said come 'tomorrow,' I asked if Friday OK, she said yes, then I learned her husband had 'left,' she's alone, with 2 little ones, so I said I'd go tomorrow (later today, Wednesday.)

I asked for 'details,' and she wrote/texted 'divorce.' I said, 'sudden?' She said, 'I guess.'

So I'll be off in the morning to help. She's on maternity leave, having had a baby Oct. 1.

2 year old's party last weekend was good, everyone seemed OK, tho she over-burdens herself, too many people and too much to do; I do SIMPLE.

I haven't liked the way she speaks to her husband for a while, 'orders,' and 'blames,' instead of accommodates. AND, when she was young, she was diagnosed by a psychiatrist with I forget what, multiple conditions, she didn't like the meds, stopped them, doc left the office, that was that. She and her 3 year younger sister don't speak, and annually or so, she, A, alienates herself from me.

Her father, my husband, sociopath, separated 6? years ago, and he died 2+ years ago. A, and her sister J, very attached to him, and both of them continue to 'mourn.'

So I'll go up to help with my grands, and learn more, I guess. Her husband MAY have left due to a fight of some sort, pretty serious I guess, due to the kiddies, to whom he is devoted. I do NOT suspect he was caught in an affair.

I did look for 'couples counselors' in their town, and if given the opportunity, will recommend such. I've wanted her to see a counselor, shrink really, for years, and the time may have come. Now as they have the kiddies, it's more important than it has been.

I'll be in touch with y'all, for support!

E