I have appointments to update my will and to prepay my cremation expenses

[woodsprite]

1. I'm sorry you had to disconnect from your brother.

I haven’t done that with mine yet (he’s 7 yrs older than me). On both parents death beds, it was “take care of your brother”. He took advantage of my mom having her sign checks to him that she could not see clearly, not paying back loans, and getting mixed up with a bunch of needy grifters. I have a small stash of cash like $150 that I call “The bank of brother” that I loan out to him - no more loans until he pays that back. I just keep recycling it. Otherwise he’d be hitting me up every month or so for a new handout. He’s retired from a govt job, gets a decent pension (tied to the Senate retirement program), has insurance and a drug plan. He doesn’t make a lot, but what he makes is pretty darned close to what his salary was when he was working. He gives his money to people he thinks are his friends.

Both my hubby and kids know about the stash, so if I’m not around, the rules are the same.

We haven’t done funeral planning or wills yet. Probably should sooner than later.