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Bereavement

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BoomaofBandM

(1,922 posts)
Thu May 25, 2023, 10:46 AM May 2023

My little sister died yesterday. She was 58. Pancreatic cancer. I turned 65 the day before that. [View all]

Cancer has turned into a family thing. My dad died at 65 of lung cancer. My oldest brother died at 56 of multiple myeloma. A sister 3 years older than me was just treated for breast cancer. My family just seems prone to the nastiest of cancers.

Every time I had to read about an anti vaxer or an anti masker I became very angry. My 2 sisters and a brother who went through a series of strokes were in and out of hospitals throughout the worse of the pandemic. Every time someone here posted about losing a family member to covid I cried for them.

We all have our own experience through all of this. While raised to be tolerant of others, I no longer have extended it to republicans. I will be polite but I will not be silent. I hope my intolerance of republicans intolerance makes a difference. We are watching "A Small Light" about the people who defied the Nazis in WWII and helped Anne Frank and her family. It is inspiring.

My family is all democrats. I don't remember ever being told how to vote or even much political discussion in my large family of 7 kids. We were encouraged not to argue politics or religion. Raised to be accepting of others and to embrace our differences. I am lucky we have no Trumpers in my family. But I think my family has reached its limit. A few weeks ago we all got together for the first time in years. My sister wanted one last gathering. And I could feel the frustration simmering in my stoic family.

We did talk religion and politics. We are all angry about anti everything. I have lots of teachers in my family and they were telling me about their live shooter plans for their schools. We talked about Ron Johnson and what an idiot he is. We discussed Medicare for all and what a fight it is to get treatments ok'd by insurance companies. And how both sisters had to fight said companies while also fighting cancer. We talked about how hard it is for our kids to purchase homes.

And I will tell you, none if us blamed anyone in the democratic party. And my usually calm family is angry. And that anger is focused on republicans.

Thank you for letting me vent.

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Ugh hibbing May 2023 #1
My condolences. CentralMass May 2023 #34
My condolences LittleGirl May 2023 #42
Thanks for this, I'll look it up n/t hibbing May 2023 #44
My sincerest condolences on babylonsister May 2023 #2
I'm so sorry! cilla4progress May 2023 #3
I am so sorry. That sounds so empty and devoid of anything helpful... hlthe2b May 2023 #4
Cancer is nasty. I'm sorry it has taken so many in your family, BoomaofBandM. Diamond_Dog May 2023 #5
I'm sorry 😣 louslobbs May 2023 #6
So sorry you have lost so many family members to cancer, BoomaofBandM. pazzyanne May 2023 #7
Yikes! 2naSalit May 2023 #8
My condolences to you and thank you for sharing. Yes, we blame 'those people' for this bullshit CurtEastPoint May 2023 #9
I'm so sorry or your loss. yardwork May 2023 #10
Condolences, BoomaofBandM gademocrat7 May 2023 #11
I'm sorry for the loss of your sister. woodsprite May 2023 #12
Much sympathy Wild blueberry May 2023 #13
Sorry for you loses JohnSJ May 2023 #14
So sorry that you lost your sister vlyons May 2023 #15
I'm so sorry stage left May 2023 #16
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat May 2023 #17
Sending you love and a hug. MLAA May 2023 #18
I'm so sorry. OnionPatch May 2023 #19
I am so sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote May 2023 #20
I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. So young. Hugs to you. LoisB May 2023 #21
Soory to see your sad news Marthe48 May 2023 #22
I'm really sorry, BoomaofBandM Bayard May 2023 #23
So very sorry AmBlue May 2023 #24
So sorry for your loss. sinkingfeeling May 2023 #25
Anger is certainly a part of grief. Been there, done that Warpy May 2023 #26
Seems Ms to me the anti-mask people in particular are lousy Americans SleeplessinSoCal May 2023 #27
We all share those complaints and that witness. calimary May 2023 #28
I'm so sorry for your loss. fierywoman May 2023 #29
Thank you for sharing your loss. My condolences. ancianita May 2023 #30
So sorry you lost your little sister and other family members to variations of the big C word. Backseat Driver May 2023 #31
Thank you for venting.. Permanut May 2023 #32
So sorry for your losses. sybylla May 2023 #33
Wishing you strength and peace Blue Owl May 2023 #35
✨✨💐✨✨ OhNo-Really May 2023 #36
Holding you in light and love. Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as niyad May 2023 #37
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 May 2023 #38
So sorry JudyM May 2023 #39
I am so sorry. murielm99 May 2023 #40
I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 May 2023 #41
I'm so sorry about your sister LittleGirl May 2023 #43
I am so sorry. debm55 Jul 2023 #45
Hugs to you Duncanpup Jul 2023 #46
I'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Jul 2023 #47
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