Ex girlfriend not allowing me to attend my friend's scattering of ashes [View all]
My friend Scott and I dated for close to 5 years. He became disabled. I paid his bills for 3 months until he could be approved for SNAP, etc. He passed away in December. A mutual friend let me know his mother (83 with Parkinson's) had no money for the funeral home, so I paid. Even though he cashed out his 401k to buy out his ex for his property, her name is still on the deed. His family (who I am friendly with) is scattering his ashes at his home this Saturday. Today, our minister told me that the ex is adamant that I am not allowed at the ceremony because she technically owns the property. I do feel sympathy for her. I think they had been together for about 18 years. I think she basically helped to raise his youngest daughter. I would like to think if the situation were reversed that I would be more understanding.
I am devastated to not be allowed at his service. I'm trying so hard to find peace with this.
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