Bereavement
In reply to the discussion: I met with attorneys yesterday over my wife. [View all]barbtries
(30,237 posts)it is still fresh. your wife just barely died. big hugs
as true as it is that even if you are told don't bring a lawsuit or if you do and lose, at some point you will need to lose the anger, it's just very fresh right now. But I try to never miss a post from you and can see that you are parenting so well in spite of your pain.
When my daughter was killed I was in a pool league. I kept playing pool and it wasn't to have fun, it was to model having fun for my 9-year-old. But really there was nothing else but Bekah and her death on my mind. My captain, and this was probably 2 months after Bekah died, said to me, "What you have to do is let it go." It actually is not bad advice, but it was grossly premature and there was no possible way for me to follow it at that point in time.
I also heard from people that my grief was hurting Bekah - well I labored mightily to deal with what had happened, and Bekah had to know that. Liz knows your struggle, if you believe there is a spirit still present (which I do).
I'm really glad you've joined a group, i think you will find that the validation of your feelings and being with people who can understand what you're going through is invaluable. Other people don't know.
5 months is like a minute when you've suffered a sudden, unjust loss of a most loved one. you're doing everything right. I hope there may be justice for Liz and peace for you and wish none of it ever happened.
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