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Bereavement

pnwmom

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12. It took me maybe half a year. And at first I felt like I was drowning in grief.

Reply to Coventina (Reply #9)

Wed Oct 26, 2022, 04:09 AM

Oct 2022

But letting out the pain was healing.

If you haven't cried yet, I think you need to. Don't let all the emotion scare you. It will be a relief to begin letting it out.

Crying produces endorphins, which make people feel good. You know that, right?

So don't worry about losing control. Go ahead and cry, let your body release its endorphins and help you feel better. And over time, slowly, you'll begin to get better. The waves won't hit as hard or last as long.

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I've had losses before, but none so devastating as my Grandma [View all] Coventina Oct 2022 OP

it's still recent Skittles Oct 2022 #1

Thanks, Skittles, it means a lot. Coventina Oct 2022 #2

Hang tough, eventually the pain eases... Enter stage left Oct 2022 #3

If you have the time, visit your local dog shelter, and secondwind Oct 2022 #4

I am so sorry, dear Coventina UpInArms Oct 2022 #5

No need to apologize. brer cat Oct 2022 #6

I loved my grandmother, too, Coventina. And I think it helps if you really let yourself cry. pnwmom Oct 2022 #7

I will take your advice very seriously. I have not cried. Coventina Oct 2022 #9

It took me maybe half a year. And at first I felt like I was drowning in grief. pnwmom Oct 2022 #12

The endorphins thing sounds vaguely familiar. Coventina Oct 2022 #14

Here is some info from Harvard Health. pnwmom Oct 2022 #15

Thank you!! n/t Coventina Oct 2022 #18

I understand. I was probably closer to my grandmother than anyone else. Rhiannon12866 Oct 2022 #8

You've described me and my grandmother to a "T" Coventina Oct 2022 #11

Thanks. Rhiannon12866 Oct 2022 #13

You do blank out in grief. Aussie105 Oct 2022 #10

Healing vibes on the way to you, Coventina. 💓💓💓 SheltieLover Oct 2022 #16

My grandparents raised me, and I know no one will ever love me like my grandmother did. 70sEraVet Oct 2022 #17