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Bereavement

pnwmom

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7. I loved my grandmother, too, Coventina. And I think it helps if you really let yourself cry.

Reply to Coventina (Original post)

Wed Oct 26, 2022, 03:24 AM

Oct 2022

A lot. And loudly. Really let it out.

I hope you have the space that you can do that in.

Over time, the waves of grief don't hit as hard, and the periods between them grow longer.

You're only a month out now, so it might feel like you'll drown in those waves -- but you won't. I promise.

Don't hold back. Just let yourself go through the waves and it will get better . . . but it will take time.

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I've had losses before, but none so devastating as my Grandma [View all] Coventina Oct 2022 OP

it's still recent Skittles Oct 2022 #1

Thanks, Skittles, it means a lot. Coventina Oct 2022 #2

Hang tough, eventually the pain eases... Enter stage left Oct 2022 #3

If you have the time, visit your local dog shelter, and secondwind Oct 2022 #4

I am so sorry, dear Coventina UpInArms Oct 2022 #5

No need to apologize. brer cat Oct 2022 #6

I loved my grandmother, too, Coventina. And I think it helps if you really let yourself cry. pnwmom Oct 2022 #7

I will take your advice very seriously. I have not cried. Coventina Oct 2022 #9

It took me maybe half a year. And at first I felt like I was drowning in grief. pnwmom Oct 2022 #12

The endorphins thing sounds vaguely familiar. Coventina Oct 2022 #14

Here is some info from Harvard Health. pnwmom Oct 2022 #15

Thank you!! n/t Coventina Oct 2022 #18

I understand. I was probably closer to my grandmother than anyone else. Rhiannon12866 Oct 2022 #8

You've described me and my grandmother to a "T" Coventina Oct 2022 #11

Thanks. Rhiannon12866 Oct 2022 #13

You do blank out in grief. Aussie105 Oct 2022 #10

Healing vibes on the way to you, Coventina. 💓💓💓 SheltieLover Oct 2022 #16

My grandparents raised me, and I know no one will ever love me like my grandmother did. 70sEraVet Oct 2022 #17