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woodsprite

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1. This is so helpful.
Mon Apr 2, 2012, 04:34 PM
Apr 2012

I remember what my brother and I had to help Mom with when Dad passed. We didn't have a clue. Dad was the person who took care of everything. My brother was not much help being a single dad of 4 kids, Mom was in a fog and I was only 23, so not a lot of experience there. My brother and I were much better at coping when Mom passed 10 yrs later.

We knew it was going to happen so had been talking about a funeral, etc. My brother put me in charge of selecting casket, clothes, flowers, etc. I just happened to go to one of the casket store web sites and had printed out the casket that I wanted for Mom. When the time came to arrange the funeral, the funeral home matched the price, so no shipping charges. I had no idea they would do that.

Mom wanted to be buried in the dress she gave me away in at my wedding or one of the 'negligees' that were so pretty at the funeral home. Turns out my SIL had accidentally sold the dress at a yardsale and the clothes at the funeral home were soooo expensive. I was able to go to Macy's and find a beautiful mother of the bride gown off the discount rack in the color Mom wanted for a huge savings (it was $20.00 - the clerk had to ask her manager if that was the correct price).

We felt relieved, because we were able to have the funeral that Mom would have wanted.

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