Someone Made a Sign for Religious People Outside a Memorial Service

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5. holding space

is what they teach us in hospice care.
last week i had a patient i was visiting break down in tears, and insisted that her family doesnt support her and wants her to hurry up and die.
i just put my arm around her, patted her shoulders, and listened to her, and let her cry.
on the way out of the room, i patted her husband to let him know that i didnt really swallow all that she had said about him.

i have also just sat quietly in the rooms of people w no family around.

just being there means a lot more than most people think.
and yeah, i would never say any of those things. they are stupid.