what are the different varietys opinions on suicide?

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9. "The Church's view is that we should leave the judgment of those who commit suicide to God."

http://en.radiovaticana.va/news/2014/10/22/can_catholics_who_commit_suicide_be_given_a_church_burial/1109137

Tell your friend to mourn her loss and, if she is Catholic, to trust her boyfriend to the infinite understanding and mercy of Christ.

What is paramount now is her grief.

Academically, the Catholic Church, while frequently mocked for declaring saints, has never declared that anyone, including Judas, is in hell. I was told in high school by an Irish Christian brother that one must fully, knowingly and deliberately turn his or her back on God and choose to be without God. No mitigation, no external pressure or circumstances, just a cool, completely self-driven, act of will to remove oneself from God. That is "hell", the complete and utter absence of God. Of course, part of that is knowing exactly what is being rejected, not some deformed caricature.

He also said that it is an extraordinarily difficult thing to do. It is much harder for a human being to choose hell than it is to choose heaven. Even though it is much easier to do wrong than it is to do right. It really is not contradictory.

Stay close to your friend. Your compassion for her is admirable.