My great-grandmother hid her race. Two decades later I understand why.

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3. I have a cousin who married a black woman around half a century ago. I later realized that

the family members who looked down on them were republican. More recently, when I cut all ties with current republicans, I noticed that the older republican family members had been part of the group that shunned the couple, and since the couple was not included in many family gatherings, I had little occasion to meet this intelligent, friendly, and interesting lady. I thought I knew the people in my family, but clearly I didn't. I'm guessing that all families have one or more members who act on beliefs of others without ever questioning them. Maybe I should have been more attentive.