Saying "thank you for your service" when you are still living in a war zone in your head ten years later seems stupid, while saying "I am sorry for your pain" seems to negate the responsibility civilians must assume for policies that create wars in the first place.
I am glad you did not die, and that there is a hope for healing and peace. I do not presume to know your own personal nightmares, but assume your self destructive tendencies are exacerbated because you are a good person who is struggling to cope with memories of horrible things.
May you find strength. May you find ways to regain control of your own mind and destiny again, and use your creative problem solving skills to rebuild the shattered world around you. May you help others who suffer the tragedies of war to heal. May your name and deeds become a blessing to the lives of others.
May you never stop fighting to make this world a better place.
Blessings to you and yours... 
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