Outta Control Teen... It's fucking Karma isn't it?

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

7. Okay, I have to ask this.

Did you set rules and limits from the very beginning? Or did you just sort of hope things would work out?

Clearly you're in a very dreadful situation, and it's hard to suggest what you might do. Although I will say that you need to set limits, tell him what is and is not acceptable and do not deviate from those standards.

You are right that he doesn't realize how much the partying in HS can fuck up his future. He will probably have to learn the hard way. And that will be at least as hard on you as it is on him.

I can only offer this (based on my experience with a difficult child): You establish ground rules. You stick to them. You provide love and support, but only so long as he sticks to those ground rules. If he's convinced he can live outside or without those rules, then let him. But DO NOT enable him. He's going to be claiming he's old enough to live as he wants, and you'll agree. But YOU WILL NOT support a life style that is far outside or yours. It's hard, I know.