My adult son (he's 20) moved in

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9. There are best practices for Homesharing with a senior citizen

You might check and see if you have a senior center or somebody at the legislature that works on senior issues or maybe even an office on aging at the University nearest you or call your legislators and ask them if there’s an office that deals with senior issues and ask those folks if they know of any intergenerational Homesharing organizations. They are common all over the continent now. Now in Hawaii we have Homesharinghawaii.org. One best practice I know is it’s a good idea for people for the tenant to have their own TV and mini fridge in their room. This is because most conflicts arise around the fridge or the TV.

The home sharing group in Hawaii, home sharinghawaii.org, works with the local mediation center to draft the agreement. It’s really best for the relationships and families to to have a structured agreement and a way for people to work things out. There’s always going to be stuff it’s just how you handle the stuff.

If your son can start to make new memories in the place with his grandpa maybe it will be a very positive place for him. I respect if you feel sad there though I understand if that’s a deal killer but is living in your dining room really fair to you folks?

OK extracting my nose from your business, aloha and good luck to all. This may end up being something so wonderful for both of them. Best hopes for all, aloha.