In Al Anon, someone who is also in AA can't be group representative.

[Rhiannon12866]

7. Oh, I so can identify, LOL!

It's par for the course around here to encourage new people to do 90 meetings in 90 days. I went to at least one meeting every single day for at least my first two years! I was very lucky in my sponsor, though. I met her at my second meeting - and she basically found me. In the beginning she took me to all the "A's," AA, Alanon, CoDA, OA, I've been to all of them...

And it did me good, too - I learned which meetings were most helpful, met people and heard what I needed to hear. I liked the literature meetings and the meeting that used As Bill Sees It was my favorite since that's my favorite book. I celebrated my first year at that meeting.

I now celebrate at a women's meeting - the meeting where I met my sponsor. I actually went there earlier tonight to support a woman who I now consider a friend who celebrated 10 years. I was very proud of her since she's usually quite shy, but she got up there and told her story, a lot of which I'd never heard before.

I like celebration meetings, they show those who are starting out that it really can be done - that is, unless it's me. The past several years I've had the good fortune to celebrate with a woman who has 43 years, sure takes the pressure off me, LOL. But this year she wasn't available. Her husband, who is also in the program, was injured and needed her at home. But I found the best person I could have imagined to celebrate with - and I sure hope she keeps coming back...

This woman has 49 years and got sober in NYC - and she actually knew Bill W! She has the most amazing stories - she used to have tea with Lois! She has stories about what they discussed and what it was like in their home... And I was just thrilled to hear what she had to say, my most favorite celebration so far - though I'd usually prefer to avoid it!

And kudos to you for finding that answer! It doesn't make sense to me, but I'm sure they know more than I do.