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redqueen

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19. I think it comes from experience, the level of fear.

Mon Dec 19, 2011, 05:29 PM

Dec 2011

I know many women who, when the RW issue exploded, thought it was absolute nonsense that she'd be afraid of the guy. Then there are those who, like me, have had bad experiences, and probably those experiences had colored their perceptions of possible danger.

I was just talking to seabeyond on another thread about being approached by strange men in cars while just walking down the street as an underaged girl. Those experiences scared me, so did the date rapes. So did being followed home as a young girl by a couple of men. It doesn't make me afraid of every man, but it would make me very cautious about how to reject an offer from a strange man in an elevator. Yes indeed. I would be very worried about the repercussions, and would probably only refuse the offer after I was stepping off the elevator.

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Trust is earned, not automatic. [View all] redqueen Dec 2011 OP

I think this applies to anything really. chrisa Dec 2011 #1

It does. redqueen Dec 2011 #2

Trust is never automatic. CrispyQ Dec 2011 #3

Schrodinger's Rapist is the term I've heard. iris27 Dec 2011 #4

Excellent blog. Thanks for posting the link. -nt CrispyQ Dec 2011 #5

That analogy became very popular when Rebecca Watson was lambasted redqueen Dec 2011 #10

sort of how i feel about straight people. nt La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #6

i would imagine the blacks feel the same. i can totally understand seabeyond Dec 2011 #7

i think most straight people dont bother to take a lgbt perspective when they state things. most La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #8

i agree with you. i am sorry you dont feel welcome. seabeyond Dec 2011 #9

the last sentence changes..... it seems like you are suggesting that there is not room for seabeyond Dec 2011 #11

the majority very rarely accomodate for minority opinion La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #12

again, it feels like you're saying, not gonna happen seabeyond Dec 2011 #13

i am telling you what i experience as a minority voice La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #14

i have yet to hear any anti gay mentality here. i would hope you had the courage to speak out seabeyond Dec 2011 #15

again, i used the word perspective pretty deliberately La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #16

you were not excluded when i say physical violence against women. seabeyond Dec 2011 #17

While I agree to a point LadyHawkAZ Dec 2011 #18

I think it comes from experience, the level of fear. redqueen Dec 2011 #19

I understand where it comes from LadyHawkAZ Dec 2011 #20

it did make me aggressive when pressed. seabeyond Dec 2011 #21

I was much more meek in my teens LadyHawkAZ Dec 2011 #22

but, i think that is so common and why so many older men go after the young. of course seabeyond Dec 2011 #23