...that if a woman lets a man get close to her he can likely pull the gun out of her hands. You and I agree on that. Except I didn't say "duh". Perhaps read my post.
I am against guns on college campuses because the combo of drunk young adults and lethal weapons is frightening.
But I would like to see the studies you mention: please give citations. I can think of lots of reasons why the studies turned out that way, some due to cause-effect relationship (woman waits too long to draw and has the gun used on her), some associative (the kinds of women who carry guns tend to be members of more dangerous niches in society, causing selection bias). Or maybe women with guns tend to move in the world more freely instead of locking themselves inside. If you give yourself 100 percent more freedom
In exchange for a ten percent higher death rate, that would be a worthwhile trade-off for some.
And the eventual offputting effect to oppoetunistic rapists, after enough 'easy targets' prove themselves to be less easy than the attacker suspected, may save lives and change society in the end. Though you won't see it on any study unless concealed-carry becomes widespread among women.
I disagree with your belief that the gun argument tells women the rape is their fault. Obviously rape is the fault of whoever commits it. I believe in fighting for a world in which rape never crosses anyone's mind because we have all been raised to respect each other. But a two pronged strategy (let's try to teach people not to rape, and for those that don't listen, be ready to teach them the fatal way) doesn't negate that.
Of course I hope you will always be free to NOT carry a gun. No means no! But I am glad we all have the other choice too.
Please do post those citations to the studies you mentioned.