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Gormy Cuss

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17. It's not your business, but it's okay with you for others to call her by the wrong surname?

Mon Oct 14, 2013, 06:04 PM

Oct 2013

Think about that.

It's a snide, backhanded way to diminish her status. Andrea Mitchell has had a long and prominent career using her own name. Her reputation doesn't come from being married to Alan Greenspan. She chooses to use her own name professionally. It's flat out insulting and more than a little bit conservative to call her by a name that isn't the one she uses just to make a point on who is her spouse.

Most of us women who are married without a name change can recite instances of people insisting on calling us "Mrs. Spousenames" even though our actual names are known. In that context it's almost always a putdown.

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Calling wives by their husbands' name [View all] question everything Oct 2013 OP

Yep. I noticed that sexist crap. DURHAM D Oct 2013 #1

Personally, when I learned the Hillary Rodham bowed to conventional pressures SheilaT Oct 2013 #2

I only wonder about the child question everything Oct 2013 #13

I have no issues with women or men adopting the spouses name Peacetrain Oct 2013 #3

But that isn't the issue here. It's substituting a woman's professional name Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #9

I always took the "Mrs. Greenspan" comments as the writer suggesting that MADem Oct 2013 #12

Of course it is. Then call her RWer Andrea question everything Oct 2013 #14

I think it's shorthand. MADem Oct 2013 #16

It's not your business, but it's okay with you for others to call her by the wrong surname? Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #17

It's not my business what people choose to call THEMSELVES on their MADem Oct 2013 #19

Are you suggesting that he's been called that here with any equivalence to Mitchell? Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #20

Greenspan has more "hits" and "visibility" than MADem Oct 2013 #24

And none of that matters to this discussion. Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #25

Well, you have your mind made up on this matter and this IS a protected group, MADem Oct 2013 #27

No one's kicking you out Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #28

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass Oct 2013 #4

Trend now HockeyMom Oct 2013 #6

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass Oct 2013 #8

I'm amazed at how 'sticky' the name change convention is. Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #10

I see that calling Andrea Mitchell, Mrs. Greenspan, Big Blue Marble Oct 2013 #5

This is completely bogus - DURHAM D Oct 2013 #7

That is such a classy response. Big Blue Marble Oct 2013 #11

As I replied, above, she is NBC national correspondent for foreign affairs question everything Oct 2013 #15

If Ms Mitchell is a journalist, Big Blue Marble Oct 2013 #21

She has been in the business since the mid-60s. DURHAM D Oct 2013 #18

Please do not worry about my education. Big Blue Marble Oct 2013 #22

You may or may not be "educated" but you are definitely DURHAM D Oct 2013 #23

You're getting upset over nothing jollyreaper2112 Oct 2013 #26

Read up thread. Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #29

No, you're still wrong jollyreaper2112 Oct 2013 #30

I don't recall ever seeing Carville called" Mr. Matalin." Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #31

and my point jollyreaper2112 Oct 2013 #32

Yes, you do. And you're projecting. Gormy Cuss Oct 2013 #33

Wives should be referred to using the name they choose. MadrasT Oct 2013 #34