men are, for some reason going eons back into time, visually stimulated in the mating business more than women. That's just a simple fact. Problems arise with how we deal with it.
Note that men are not the ones in five inch stillettos, Victoria's Secret bras and mascara. Or spending much money on hair care products. Well, most of us aren't. And also note that going back to ancient, and even prehistoric, times the art of the human body was often focused on sexual characteristics. Highly focused. Both sexes.
I'm not qualified to argue what all this means, but I can note that it exists and does have the effect of men noticing good looking women. We also notice the competition between women in this looking good business. Most of us realize that his is not done specifically for our benefit (I am in no way playing "blame the women"
but we are perfectly happy to take advantage of it as spectators. I might also note that most men don't find the stillettos, too heavy makeup, or excessively revealing clothing to be more attractive than less fashionable clothing. Many find them artificial and offputting. Especially if it makes you walk funny. Fashion photography, btw, is designed to put all these together into a fantasy look, so pushing it isn't as grotesque as it could be in real life.
While I readily admit that some men can be creepy, or outright pigs, dangerous even, I do have a problem with putting all this on men as if there is something going on that is entirely our fault. We did not invent microskirts, and even if a man did invent the bikini, nobody is forcing you to wear them. Wearing such clothing, or lack thereof, does not invite any sort of attack, of course, verbal or otherwise, but I don't understand complaints over our admiring the results of hot clothes, workouts, makeup and a little surgery on top of what you were born with.
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