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Gravitycollapse

(8,155 posts)
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 01:05 AM Mar 2014

I am at a bar on the strip and let me tell you...

Last edited Tue Mar 18, 2014, 01:43 AM - Edit history (1)

Not only is chivalry dead. It never lived.

Fuck sexual violence.

To preface this entire thing: I spoke to a friend who is a bartender who made it explicit that the women who "prepare" for these kind of holidays "denigrate" themselves. The only kind of justification is the pay. And to justify this kind of humiliation with pay is disturbing. It's wrong.

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I am at a bar on the strip and let me tell you... (Original Post) Gravitycollapse Mar 2014 OP
I hope you get whatever help you might need in the wake of such violence. Oakenshield Mar 2014 #1
There's a woman here who has been through hell and back... Gravitycollapse Mar 2014 #2
I am curious what you mean by this reply. Kali Mar 2014 #18
I was concerned for her welfare. Oakenshield Mar 2014 #19
I don't understand what exactly this is about BainsBane Mar 2014 #3
The holiday is St. Patrick's day. Gravitycollapse Mar 2014 #4
your friends are forced to serve drinks at bars when they could choose something else? nt msongs Mar 2014 #5
I know, right? It's raining jobs in the US! ZombieHorde Mar 2014 #6
Right? redqueen Mar 2014 #9
... lol ... Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #11
Yep, Charlie Day cracks me up too :) it's from one of my favorite shows. redqueen Mar 2014 #12
is that Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #15
Exactly! nt ZombieHorde Mar 2014 #14
Yes, the only "job" which bothers to pay anything is being a sex object at a bar... Gravitycollapse Mar 2014 #7
You're forced to make this post when you could choose to be supportive? nt LanternWaste Mar 2014 #8
something about choosing to support their right to be denigrated for the almighty dollar Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #13
Financial coercion is the defacto American dream for far too many people. LanternWaste Mar 2014 #16
Too many people use monetary gain as the definition Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #17
I'm curious what they meant by "prepare". redqueen Mar 2014 #10

Oakenshield

(628 posts)
1. I hope you get whatever help you might need in the wake of such violence.
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 01:28 AM
Mar 2014

Be that counseling or a visit to the doctor's office. Please take care.

Gravitycollapse

(8,155 posts)
2. There's a woman here who has been through hell and back...
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 01:41 AM
Mar 2014

And it is a shame, an absolute shame that all of this has been in the name of some ridiculous holiday.

This is ridiculous. No one should have to deal with the kind of sexual harassment dealt women tonight. It's unacceptable. Absolutely, unacceptable.

Oakenshield

(628 posts)
19. I was concerned for her welfare.
Wed Mar 19, 2014, 01:22 PM
Mar 2014

Nothing else to it really. Maybe I came off condescending, in which case I apologize.

BainsBane

(54,728 posts)
3. I don't understand what exactly this is about
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 01:59 AM
Mar 2014

Are you talking about prostitutes or strippers? Is that what you mean by pay? What then is the holiday?

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
9. Right?
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 10:06 AM
Mar 2014

They should just strap on their job helmets and squeeze down into a job cannon and fire off into job land, where jobs grow on little jobbies.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
11. ... lol ...
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 10:43 AM
Mar 2014

*snicker*snicker* ... really did get a giggle out of that one, thanks

fire off into job land.

bombs away.

Baby!!

Gravitycollapse

(8,155 posts)
7. Yes, the only "job" which bothers to pay anything is being a sex object at a bar...
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 02:39 AM
Mar 2014

Which pays well but is humiliating. And even after asking my friends if they felt the job paid well they said that ultimately it was simply "denigrating," regardless of the pay.

And the worst part is the kind of interaction after the "party" with men just screaming at women as if they're property (the police ignore it.) It boggles the mind.

How do we live in a society where women are treated so poorly?

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
8. You're forced to make this post when you could choose to be supportive? nt
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 07:43 AM
Mar 2014

You're forced to make this post when you could choose to be supportive? nt

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
13. something about choosing to support their right to be denigrated for the almighty dollar
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 10:51 AM
Mar 2014

goes here. America Freedom

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
16. Financial coercion is the defacto American dream for far too many people.
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 03:04 PM
Mar 2014

Financial coercion is the defacto American dream for far too many people.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
17. Too many people use monetary gain as the definition
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 04:01 PM
Mar 2014

For success. Americans are especially susceptible to this ruse.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
10. I'm curious what they meant by "prepare".
Tue Mar 18, 2014, 10:43 AM
Mar 2014

Put on ridiculously cheap, tacky, mass-manufactured, Irish-themed merchandise? Paint their faces green?

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