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Siwsan

(27,257 posts)
Tue May 21, 2024, 08:40 AM May 2024

Poor Gryff. He's such a loving boy but his enthusiasm can be exhausting

Yesterday was very stressful and I was kind of hanging on by one frayed thread. Gryff thought the perfect solution was to be underfoot and in my way, no matter what I was trying to do. Like connecting my new internet modem which involved using an app. That was a new experience for me and I kind of got things out of order. Gryff seemed determined to 'help'. It took me three tries to finally succeed.

Then while I was trying to do some mobile bank deposits, again, he wanted to make sure those checks were FLAT so I'd get a good picture. Well, pictures of him. I didn't want to deposit Gryff in to my bank account. I admit I lost my patience with him and then I felt awful.

Last night while I was desperately trying to fall asleep, Gryff just wanted endless scritches. When he saw my eyes open at 2am, again, SCRITCHES, please!! ARGHHHH!!! Of course, though, he got scritches.

I've taken a deep breath and today is a better day so my stress level is lower and Gryff is not worried about me.

I know he really just wants to help.

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Poor Gryff. He's such a loving boy but his enthusiasm can be exhausting (Original Post) Siwsan May 2024 OP
I hate struggling with new tech. House of Roberts May 2024 #1
He was worried about you Goddessartist May 2024 #2
Gryff really bonded tight with me and falls asleep next to me, every night. Siwsan May 2024 #4
What a little sweetheart! Goddessartist May 2024 #7
Not until July 2 Siwsan May 2024 #8
Wow Goddessartist May 2024 #9
I have told him Siwsan May 2024 #10
Such terrible experiences! Goddessartist May 2024 #11
It's called attention. You can't possibly be more Polly Hennessey May 2024 #3
That's probably it Siwsan May 2024 #5
He puts the "hell" in "help"? bluescribbler May 2024 #6

House of Roberts

(5,668 posts)
1. I hate struggling with new tech.
Tue May 21, 2024, 08:48 AM
May 2024

I'm adjusting to an iPhone XR after several years of a declining capability with an iPhone 6. Several common functions are proving difficult to get used to. At least the processor/ram is more capable.

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)
2. He was worried about you
Tue May 21, 2024, 08:48 AM
May 2024

Our Midnight does the same maddening things...but he's very much in tune with my body and the problems I have, so he gets into everything I do, especially art. That brings both boys, Midnight and Jasper, to pester me endlessly and knock things over that I'm trying to work with...but then Midnight just wants to sit on my lap and make sure I'm okay. I have heart things daily so all 3 critters are super attentive to me.

I'm sorry you've been stressed. Sending you love and calm vibes and meows from my boys.

Siwsan

(27,257 posts)
4. Gryff really bonded tight with me and falls asleep next to me, every night.
Tue May 21, 2024, 09:34 AM
May 2024

If I make a kissy sound for any other furbaby, he comes RACING to me. It's almost like he senses that he's the only one not somehow related to the rest.

I see my therapist on Thursday Hopefully he can help me move up my medication review from July to some time in June. I no longer trust my APN with this and the psychiatrist my therapist wants me to see for the review is really booked up. They have other providers who are qualified to do reviews but he thought this MD would be a good match.

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)
7. What a little sweetheart!
Tue May 21, 2024, 10:41 AM
May 2024

I hope your therapist helps you. I love mine, and my psychiatrist. The meds they have me on are very helpful. How long until you can see the psychiatrist? If they're good, they're worth the wait.

Sending you lots of love. Midnight is here playing with my hair and purring as I type this.

Siwsan

(27,257 posts)
8. Not until July 2
Tue May 21, 2024, 11:03 AM
May 2024

I was hoping to get this taken care of before I go in for my yearly 'wellness check. I had a great APN but she retired and the one who took her place has zero patience or tolerance for my anxiety issues. She reminds me a lot of my mother's attitude. When I leave those appointments I go straight home and crawl in to bed.

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)
9. Wow
Tue May 21, 2024, 11:15 AM
May 2024

I'm so sorry! Blech on the mom thing - sorry, I had a very poor relationship with my mom. Have you told your therapist about the APN, or her superiors? I myself have had some very negative experiences with doctors.

Siwsan

(27,257 posts)
10. I have told him
Tue May 21, 2024, 12:05 PM
May 2024

And I got one of those 'how was your visit' survey emails which I filled out in great detail. Then the clinic called me. Twice.

I've been back once, since the first awful visit. The APN was slightly more reserved but, to me, still rather callous. I have severe white coat hypertension and, apparently, she doesn't think that's a real thing. The only time my BP is HIGH is when I'm in a doctor's office. I've had some horrible experiences with doctors. One lied to me about why he wanted to check me in to a hospital for some tests. He said it was to see if I had a fungal infection in my lung. He really thought the x-ray they took showed cancer. My mom was in on the lie. I've never been able to trust a single one, since.

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)
11. Such terrible experiences!
Tue May 21, 2024, 02:30 PM
May 2024

The doctor should never have lied to you. Geesh! I've had 3 doctors be extremely rude to me, even though I had my hubby with me. He was shocked. One didn't listen to me at all and dismissed me out of hand quite rudely, when I had a brain aneurysm. I had to go back to my primary and get another referral to another ophthalmologist who was also rude to me because I wouldn't let him dilate my eyes again. The first insisted on it, I told him my left eye was very weak, I'd had strabismus surgery when a child, and my muscles were atrophying. I should never have let him do it, as my left eye now I can't control, and need surgery to repair, which hopefully I'll get. It also took my eye 48 hours to go down, which is part of my EDS. I got a referral to a neural ophthalmologist from him, though, which is what I wanted from him, but I let his office know and my other doctors know how rude he was to me.

I now have an excellent neuro ophthalmologist, and am meeting a new one in August, who can do surgery.

I'm also known to confront doctors, and will not go back if treated poorly. I'm lucky now that I found an incredible primary care doctor, who has learned along with me about Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, which I have, and which is progressive.

Sending you all of my love. You're welcome to message me anytime. I'll send you my email.

Polly Hennessey

(7,424 posts)
3. It's called attention. You can't possibly be more
Tue May 21, 2024, 09:24 AM
May 2024

interested in something that is less interesting than me, Sir Gryff.

Siwsan

(27,257 posts)
5. That's probably it
Tue May 21, 2024, 09:36 AM
May 2024

It would be one thing if he just settled in for a snuggle but he's FAR more rambunctious than that. Snuggles, cuddles, head bops, nuzzles, biscuits, attempts to give ME scritches. That's not fun. He has ferocious claws and won't let me trim them. A little too much affection draws blood.

bluescribbler

(2,250 posts)
6. He puts the "hell" in "help"?
Tue May 21, 2024, 10:30 AM
May 2024

I call our two cats, "speedbumps". I could get from one room to the other twice as fast without their "guidance".

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