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In the darkest hour of the AIDS epidemic, Ruth Coker Burks cared for hundreds of people whose families had abandoned them. Courage, love and the 30-year secret of one little graveyard in Hot Springs.
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It started in 1984, in a hospital hallway.
Burks, now 55, was 25 and a young mother when she went to University Hospital in Little Rock to help care for a friend who had cancer. Her friend eventually went through five surgeries, Burks said, so she spent a lot of time that year parked in hospitals. Thats where she was the day she noticed the door, one with a big, red bag over it. It was a patients room. I would watch the nurses draw straws to see who would go in and check on him. Itd be: Best two out of three, and then theyd say, Can we draw again?
She knew what it probably was, even though it was early enough in the epidemic for the disease to be called GRID gay-related immune deficiency instead of AIDS (acquired immune deficiency syndrome). She had a gay cousin in Hawaii and had asked him about the stories of a gay plague after seeing a report on the news. Hed told her, Thats just the leather guys in San Francisco. Its not us. Dont worry. Still, in her concern for him, shed read everything she could find about the disease over the previous months, hoping he was right.
Whether because of curiosity or as she believes today some higher power moving her, Burks eventually disregarded the warnings on the red door and snuck into the room. In the bed was a skeletal young man, wasted to less than 100 pounds. He told her he wanted to see his mother before he died.
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https://arktimes.com/news/cover-stories/2015/01/08/ruth-coker-burks-the-cemetery-angel
The Velveteen Ocelot
(122,629 posts)Liberal Jesus Freak
(1,464 posts)mia
(8,431 posts)Thank you.
barbtries
(30,129 posts)very moving.
backtoblue
(11,925 posts)I'm going to get in touch with the cemetery and local funeral directors this week.
A memorial is the least that my fellow funeral directors and I can do to honor Ruth and the amazing difference she made.
This is the America that reminds us how wonderful our fellow humans can be.