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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsAsking for love and light for my darling Penny
Penny is 15 years, six months and two days old. Born the 4th of July. She is half Cavalier King Charles spaniel and half American Eskimo. She has the sweetest, gentlest disposition, although with a fun-loving, independent spirit. My heart is breaking for her.
It looks like she will be crossing the rainbow bridge today if the vet can get here through the snow.
She's been fading the past few months. Lost the ability to walk or stand - probably some neurological issue according to the vet. i've been changing her diapers and towels about 10 times a day, but she didn't seem to be suffering until last night, She refused food yesterday, and later, water. I've been giving her 0.5 cc of water with a syringe every hour or so.
Overnight she began panting heavily and having muscle convulsions and barking in pain. The three of us were up with her most of the night trying to calm and reassure her. Gave her her dose of gabapentin this morning.
I've been playing the amazingly calming "Song for Daisy" by Gnash on loop, it is almost magical instrumental music for dogs.
Please send her vibes to pass gently and without pain. Thank you.
My husband, daughter and I are absolute wrecks. And I'm so worried that the vet from Lap of Love might not get here. I don't want my sweet baby girl to suffer any longer.
I called a home euthanasia service, but the vet can't get here until noon or later, and the snow has been falling more heavily than we expected.

Walleye
(38,622 posts)
CousinIT
(11,082 posts)I do hope the vet gets there SOON!.
Sending massive comfort vibes to your sweet girl! I know it's THE WORST seeing your loves suffering but you are doing all you can.
😭💔
Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)No snow on the ground in Asbury Park, she said. Buy it looks like at least 2 inches outside, in Toms River.
Thank you.
spooky3
(37,137 posts)Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)spooky3
(37,137 posts)Deuxcents
(21,261 posts)Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)Diamond_Dog
(36,217 posts)Cross gently, dear sweet Penny. Thank you for giving your love to a human so joyfully.
Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)I think she did pass gently.
Texin
(2,707 posts)He's been in a lively "second puppyhood" for the past six or more months, and this weekend he began to go downhill. I would prefer to have a vet come to the house and there is one who provides this service in-home, but hubs seems reluctant to commit to this right now even though he knows it's the kind and right thing to do. Again, my heartfelt condolences to you.
biophile
(650 posts)Nature always seems to call them home on a weekend or during a storm 😑.
Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)We think the snow might have been for her - she adored it. Used to run around with her mouth open scooping it up lie a little snow plow.
We gave her a small bowl of snow this morning and she licked up every bit. Did the same with the second bowl too. Thank heaven we were able to give her something enjoyable.
Think. Again.
(21,647 posts)Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)mercuryblues
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Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)lark
(24,655 posts)Poor darling girl!
debm55
(43,476 posts)get to your home.
Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)and now Penny is on her way to cremation.
She was a great dog.
SimplyHadEnough
(78 posts)Fla Dem
(26,342 posts)Last edited Fri Jan 10, 2025, 10:22 AM - Edit history (1)
I still talk to my cat who passed just over a year ago.
Peace to you.
sinkingfeeling
(54,460 posts)SARose
(1,206 posts)We have two 16 year old dachshunds and know each day we have is a blessing.
You are a good parent and putting Pennys needs first.
Hard place to be, I know.
Love and light
Ocelot II
(123,556 posts)Peaceful passage, Penny.
TommieMommy
(1,648 posts)I still miss our dalmatian who passed 10 years ago. They are always in our hearts 🙏
Fla Dem
(26,342 posts)Makes me think when my girl(cat) of 17 years, passed last year. One of the worst days of my life.
Karadeniz
(23,944 posts)addition to the family for so many years. She'll be waiting for you on the other side, truly.
10 Turtle Day
(656 posts)And that your hearts will heal in time. Cherish all the time you had with her and what time is left. I feel for you.
StarryNite
(11,380 posts)May Pennys passing be quick and painless as she passes on to her next journey.
Clouds Passing
(4,001 posts)
Cross the rainbow bridge softly sweet girl

LuckyCharms
(19,734 posts)niyad
(122,596 posts)end her suffering, and send peace and comfort to her grieving loved ones.
I am so very sorry for what you are all going through. Holding all of you in love and light.
Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)ZonkerHarris
(25,577 posts)debm55
(43,476 posts)
Mr.Bill
(24,906 posts)She is going to a better place.
JoeOtterbein
(7,812 posts)...sorry.
SheltieLover
(64,172 posts)Have you told her it's ok to go to the Bridge?
orangecrush
(23,563 posts)They are family.
1WorldHope
(1,081 posts)DarthDem
(5,382 posts)May Penny pass ever so gently. It sounds like she was a wonderful companion, and you to her.
pandr32
(12,713 posts)It is so hard to lose a treasured pet. They are our family.
Your heart must be breaking.
Scalded Nun
(1,363 posts)Figarosmom
(4,728 posts)Hold her and whisper she can go it's alright. Hope she'll fade with comfort.
Genevra
(48 posts)NT
Wicked Blue
(7,698 posts)Go now in peace
go now in peace
May the spirit of love surround you
everywhere, everywhere
you may go
CousinIT
(11,082 posts)
niyad
(122,596 posts)Donkees
(32,690 posts)
From the doorway of rainbow,
The path out of which is the rainbow,
The rainbow passed out with me,
The rainbow rose up with me.
Through the middle of broad fields,
The rainbow returned with me
With the rainbow hanging high over your head, come to us soaring.
With beauty before me
With beauty behind me
With beauty above me
With beauty below me
With beauty all around me
It is finished in beauty.
It is finished in beauty.
is absolutely lovely. Is it from the Diné tradition?
Donkees
(32,690 posts)I thought I recognized parts of it, but don't think I have seen the whole before (and of course it isn't the whole, but I mean the whole excerpt.)
KitFox
(232 posts)is the surest sign that your Penny had the finest of all gifts from youa full and happy life. I hope the snow pauses enough for the service to arrive soon. I am so sorry. Sending peace and gentle hugs to you as you inch your way through this tough time.
BobTheSubgenius
(11,897 posts)I'm so sorry that you and your family are facing this ordeal. My wife and I went through it last May, when we had to end the suffering of our 16-year old Cairn, Ozzie.
D and I send our deepest hopes and wishes for an easy passing. She said that the burden got a little less when we received his ashes from the vet, to whom we paid extra to have the ashes kept from a single-dog cremation.
Some joy for the years you had with her and ease from the suffering of all four of you.
JMCKUSICK
(1,370 posts)I try to remember in times like these that my overwhelming sadness is the direct result of losing the source of incredible joy.
I try to think of all the reasons my life was made better by my baby and to pray a thank you to their soul.
debm55
(43,476 posts)
Marthe48
(20,232 posts)Sending loving, healing thoughts.
orleans
(35,737 posts)
bronxiteforever
(10,114 posts)Peace and light to the good old girl.
alittlelark
(18,963 posts)There are many Ive used over the years, this one is good
So is this one
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sdfernando
(5,598 posts)Cross gently Penny.
mgardener
(1,982 posts)Godspeed, Penny!
chowder66
(10,222 posts)montanacowboy
(6,447 posts)The best day of our lives is when we get them and the worst day when they leave us.
Goodnight sweet princess....peace to you and yours
slightlv
(5,073 posts)and so sorry for the heartbreak you and your family feels. I understand about the snow... my Mom died on Friday, just before the largest snowstorm in decades hit us. I even had to delay the meeting at the funeral home today because of the roads. I do hope your vet can get there safely. Our fur babies leave huge imprints on our hearts... losing as many of my elder cats as I did last year, I had to get myself to where I acknowledged the loss, the grief, and the pain... and then throw myself into something else like cleaning house. Otherwise, I'd have just been a bundle of tears all the time. Peace to you and yours... and a "good and faithful dog" pat for Penny.
JoseBalow
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virgdem
(2,244 posts)on Penny's passing. You gave her such a great life. Cherish always the memories of sweet Penny.
HeartsCanHope
(853 posts)Trueblue Texan
(3,217 posts)I am experiencing the same thing with my 14-year old cavalier, Georgia. Tuesday morning she was unable to walk, as though her entire backside is paralyzed. We've been using a sling to toilet her and using diapers which don't help much. It is such a stinking mess, but so far she has not demonstrated pain. I've been having trouble getting her to drink water so I've been mixing it with wet food which she gobbles up. The vet said the anti-inflammatory she's taking can cause kidney issues so I know drinking is important. I worry that she will suddenly decline like your baby if I can't get her to drink water more than she now is. I don't know what to do. Maybe I should just put her down, but cognitively she is so sharp, it just doesn't seem right. Based on what I've seen, her mobility is not going to get better. I don't know what the most humane course would be here. She is also a sweet, gentle baby who looks at me with such trust in her eyes. I want to do what is best for her. I guess I'll just take it one day at a time and hope she passes quietly in her sleep.
Peace and healing to you, dear. I know your heartbreak. I have no problem admitting that it is every bit as painful to lose a beloved pet as a family member. They ARE family members. Take care.
niyad
(122,596 posts)and comfort for all of you.
Teacher of the Year
(180 posts)I've been through that same wait. Once on New Year's Eve. I know nothing I can say will make it any better, Just know I'm shedding a few tears for your sweet Penny and sending some love in her direction. And yours.
cate94
(2,940 posts)For you and Penny
TexasBushwhacker
(20,856 posts)She knows she is loved.
Luciferous
(6,384 posts)Nigrum Cattus
(432 posts)Buddyzbuddy
(435 posts)I know I will feel the pain of what you are going through. To not share in that pain would be selfish. The day is a little darker, my heart a little heavier as my tears flow for you, your family and Penny's pain. May her pain subside and her passing be swift. Remember the memories of moments of joy and laughter she leaves behind and she will live on.
Take care Wicked Blue
Phentex
(16,600 posts)I'm very sorry for your loss. They are family members and it's really really hard to lose them!
Niagara
(10,299 posts)The majority of us here feel your pain as we have been through this as well.
Please know that I'm sending you best wishes so that your beloved Penny doesn't suffer.
MLAA
(18,998 posts)
calimary
(85,363 posts)Thank you so much for sharing this hard part of the journey with us. You know the old saying many hands make light work? Well, many hands can also help lift you up during times like this. It means you dont have to go through it alone.
Evolve Dammit
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skylucy
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SWBTATTReg
(24,961 posts)reached 17 to 18 years this year, and this is the year the first two died already and the 3rd one is on her way. She is getting spoiled rotten, and her last days will be w/ whatever she wants. It kills me every day to see them go into the night, but I'll be damned to make sure that they have every little bit of goodies, whatever I can give her. She is right by us too, all of the time.
You have our vibes for her to go gently into the night, and our sorrow at your suffering. She knows that you are right by her side. A blessing indeed. Bless you all in your pain.
waterwatcher123
(327 posts)I hope the vet makes it through the snow to help ease the pain. If not, your dog will pass on her own without any judgement. You did everything you could to make her last moments on this planet peaceful and loving.
LetMyPeopleVote
(159,685 posts)It is hard to say goodbye to a family member
Picaro
(1,872 posts)area51
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summer_in_TX
(3,496 posts)It's so painful when these creatures we love so much are suffering. We found our Lily, a Chihuahua mix who made it to the age of 17 years of age, suddenly showed she was at her end one night after all the veterinarians in our small town were closed for the night. A heartbreaking night.
I am so sorry for you in this terrible time. I hope your Penny is now free of pain. Sending a
3catwoman3
(26,331 posts)Euthanized sounds very impersonal for something so fraught with emotion, put down sounds harsh and we so wish they were just going to sleep.
Liberating the spirit has a kind and gentle feel to it, at least for our family.
Wishing you strength and serenity.
Bluethroughu
(7,003 posts)I'm sending love and colorful light of peace for Penny.
ProfessorGAC
(71,848 posts)It's super tough, every time.
We lost 2 cats in '24, so can empathize.
Take care.