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BWdem4life

(2,457 posts)
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 09:03 AM Oct 30

My daughter just shared the happy news...

She has earned her Associate of Arts!



She is 29. Me being poor, (and a single dad to boot), I was unable to pay for college. I warned her very strongly against student loans, and told her there was really no rush. I myself have no degree - I washed out early due to the high cost (even in 1987 it was too much for me), went to work and never got one.

Opportunity came when she broke up with her boyfriend in 2020 and moved in with me and my fiance. At that point she was 25. I told her that as long as she was going to school, she could pay $200 rent. She took the bull by the horns, got financial aid and worked part time, went to community college.

Persistence has paid off and she has her first degree. She is now at a good, but relatively inexpensive 4-year institution, working on a BS in Chemistry. Why chemistry? Heck if I know... I was lousy in Chemistry. But I'm sure it will open all kinds of doors for her. She had to move in with her grandma because it was too far away, which is actually very helpful to my mom as her husband has cancer now

At any rate, that's my boast for the day!

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My daughter just shared the happy news... (Original Post) BWdem4life Oct 30 OP
Congratulations, this is wonderful news FakeNoose Oct 30 #1
Great news. Good for her. underpants Oct 30 #2
Good news is great to hear! Not boasting at all! Hope22 Oct 30 #3
Chemistry? Excellent choice Easterncedar Oct 30 #4
Yes, not easy, but leads to a lifetime of delights and employment. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Oct 30 #8
#1 reason to boast, and good for you AND your daughter. a kennedy Oct 30 #5
Sending the vibes to all of you! Faux pas Oct 30 #6
The little things are actually big things when you cachukis Oct 30 #7
Fantastic! MLAA Oct 30 #9
Congratulations to you and your daughter. debm55 Oct 30 #10
Fantastic news! No wonder you're proud.... Tanuki Oct 30 #11
WOW, SUPER for her!! robleb Oct 30 #12
Congratulations to her and you! You have every reason to be proud and boast! liberalla Oct 30 #13
Woohoo! iluvtennis Oct 30 #14
I am a chemist and it is a pleasure to welcome a young woman to our profession. NNadir Oct 30 #15
Congratulations to you both! Chemistry is an awesome choice. woodsprite Oct 30 #16
This is great - TBF Oct 30 #17
Congratulations, well done by all. Chemistry is a wonderful field which can lead to many opportunities. c-rational Oct 30 #18
Good for her! I know you must be very proud. I wish her well. LoisB Oct 30 #19
Kudos to your daughter zeusdogmom Oct 30 #20
Congratulations! And some advice from a former academic administrator MyMission Oct 30 #21
That's just great! people Oct 30 #22
Congratulations! I know exactly how you feel yobrault1 Oct 30 #23
A BS in Chemistry can open doors Biglinda 52 Oct 30 #24
Well done sir! LittleGirl Oct 30 #25
Very inspiring story! karin_sj Oct 30 #26
Fabulous! Tell her all the good people on DU are proud of her!!! Karadeniz Oct 30 #27
I will! nt BWdem4life Oct 30 #29
That is a wonderful accomplishment!! CrispyQ Oct 30 #28
Congrats! Wishing all the best for her and you! (n/t) Moostache Oct 30 #30
Congratulations to your daughter! DemonGoddess Oct 30 #31
Fabulous! leftieNanner Oct 30 #32
Terrific news!!! calimary Oct 30 #33
I've been telling a lot of kids that an AD will net them a job that pays the bills Warpy Oct 30 #34
wonderful for you & her!!! bluboid Oct 30 #35
Good job Figarosmom Oct 30 #36
Soooooo happy for all of you! What an accomplishment!!! Liberal In Red State Oct 30 #37
Congrats malaise Oct 30 #38
Congratulations to both of you! That is how I got my college degrees, some decades ago. Ziggysmom Oct 30 #39
Congratulations! You should be very proud. PittBlue Oct 30 #40
Excellent news! Ligyron Oct 30 #41
Congratulations to your daughter! It is a wonderful achievement! HeartsCanHope Oct 30 #42
Chemistry is a great career choice -- my dad was a food chemist, flavorist & scientist for over 50 years Bluejeans Oct 30 #43
That is WONDERFUL!!!! GeoWilliam750 Oct 30 #44
Congrats bdamomma Oct 30 #45
kudos to you, too Skittles Oct 30 #46
How awesome congratulations to her ,and go proud daddy!! FirstLight Oct 30 #47
Excellent!! catchnrelease Oct 30 #48
Good for her Old Crank Oct 31 #49

FakeNoose

(35,502 posts)
1. Congratulations, this is wonderful news
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 09:08 AM
Oct 30

Your daughter made some great choices and she did the hard work to get ahead. Meanwhile you gave her awesome advice, and you gave her a chance to spread her wings. It's a win-win!

Easterncedar

(3,398 posts)
4. Chemistry? Excellent choice
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 09:10 AM
Oct 30

She’s not taking the easy road. Of course you are proud. Well done you! Thanks for sharing the good news!

MLAA

(18,570 posts)
9. Fantastic!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 09:29 AM
Oct 30

A degree in Chemistry will serve her well, either directly using her degree or in another field just demonstrating she was smart enough to achieve such a difficult degree! Go, daughter!

Tanuki

(15,277 posts)
11. Fantastic news! No wonder you're proud....
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 09:35 AM
Oct 30

I'm beaming with pride on her behalf and I don't know either of you! But her intelligence and hard work are definitely paying off and creating a bright, rewarding future for her!

NNadir

(34,533 posts)
15. I am a chemist and it is a pleasure to welcome a young woman to our profession.
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 09:57 AM
Oct 30

I regard it as a very satisfying career, one that serves humanity in subtle but essential ways and offers the highest level of intellectual satisfaction.

Congratulations all around. I wish your family every success in the world.

woodsprite

(12,179 posts)
16. Congratulations to you both! Chemistry is an awesome choice.
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:00 AM
Oct 30

It reaches into so many areas. I have friends and family who have chemistry backgrounds that have found their spots in fashion merchandising, fire protection engineering, art conservation, historic preservation, a paint company, and medical fields, to name a few. It's so exciting as a parent to see doors open for our children.

TBF

(34,121 posts)
17. This is great -
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:04 AM
Oct 30

you did a lot just by providing housing! I am certain she is grateful for the support, and it is a blessing that she's able to help your mom in return. (My siblings and I did state colleges too - we were the first generation in our family to go to college)

MyMission

(1,998 posts)
21. Congratulations! And some advice from a former academic administrator
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:34 AM
Oct 30

I suggest she take 12 additional credits in education so she can be certified to teach!
Working in higher ed for many years, I suggested this to many students, and the ones that did so were always grateful. Majoring in Science, History, English, Art whatever, having a teaching certificate can open doors and offer options after graduation. I'll add that I did not do that, and ended up teaching with a provisional license and needed to go back to school for 12 credits to get certified. That's my unsolicited advice. Please share it with your daughter.
I know you're proud of her!

yobrault1

(151 posts)
23. Congratulations! I know exactly how you feel
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:37 AM
Oct 30

I did the same with my daughter, she got her computer science degree over a 10 year span but ended up with $0 student debt because she stayed home, worked to pay for every semester until she was done. Now she makes more money than I do but she is not burdened with massive student debt and can save towards buying her first home.

It's very rewarding, even though I could not pay for her education, I provided, as did you, an enabling environment for her to achieve her goals.

Biglinda 52

(86 posts)
24. A BS in Chemistry can open doors
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:40 AM
Oct 30

My neighbor's daughter has a BS in Chem and she's a food chemist. She also has a side (unpaid) gig with America's Test kitchen as a recipe tester. Congrats to your daughter!

LittleGirl

(8,395 posts)
25. Well done sir!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:43 AM
Oct 30

I finished my degree at age 45 and I was so happy about how long it took and how important it was to me. I had to get a couple of student loans while I took classes so that my employer could repay me when I passed the test. They wouldn't cover every single class but it helped to pay for 95% of them. When I got reimbursed, I was debt free. Good for her! I'm so happy to see another young woman put in the work to be successful! Yay.

karin_sj

(1,052 posts)
26. Very inspiring story!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:48 AM
Oct 30

Congratulations to her for being such a responsible and caring person, and to you for raising and supporting such a great person!

CrispyQ

(38,124 posts)
28. That is a wonderful accomplishment!!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:55 AM
Oct 30


And a good degree, too! It was his knowledge of chemistry that saved Captain Kirk from the gorn.

leftieNanner

(15,673 posts)
32. Fabulous!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:56 AM
Oct 30

If she chooses to go the distance and get a PhD in chemistry, the grad school will be free and she will be paid a stipend.

My daughter did, and is now an assistant professor in that field.

Congratulations 🎉

Warpy

(113,130 posts)
34. I've been telling a lot of kids that an AD will net them a job that pays the bills
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 12:22 PM
Oct 30

and once they can do that, they can sart thinking about working on that BA or BS without incurring a crippling amount of debt . It's not the easiest way, but it can be done.

Ziggysmom

(3,556 posts)
39. Congratulations to both of you! That is how I got my college degrees, some decades ago.
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 02:48 PM
Oct 30

In the real, working world you get ahead by hard work and what you know, not where your diplomas came from. I work in IT and often meet new grads who have massive student loan debt. All that status of attending a snooty private college has long worn off. Hope you two can celebrate together.

Bluejeans

(87 posts)
43. Chemistry is a great career choice -- my dad was a food chemist, flavorist & scientist for over 50 years
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 04:34 PM
Oct 30

Tell your daughter to look into chemist jobs in the food industry, especially jobs for "flavorists". My dad specialized in flavors for food, drinks and pharmaceuticals.

You may have run across my dad's work when you were raising your daughter. My dad invented the sweet candy grape flavor for Children's Dimetapp!

Here's an article explaining what a "flavorist" does on a daily basis:

https://www.owlguru.com/career/flavorists/

FirstLight

(13,960 posts)
47. How awesome congratulations to her ,and go proud daddy!!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 09:31 PM
Oct 30

Im back at my BA at 54... Scared as fuck but what the hell else am I gonna do? My body can't keep up with the old jobs I used to work, so here we go!

Chemistry is no joke! Good for her!!

catchnrelease

(2,005 posts)
48. Excellent!!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:40 PM
Oct 30

She's got smarts doing things the way she has been doing. Two of my grandkids have taken the same route. Junior college first two years, got themselves some aid and are now both in a state college that's near home. So one commutes the short distance from home and the other shares an apartment with other young women. They should both be able to graduate without the horrible loan debt. Congrats to your daughter and her proud dad!!

Old Crank

(4,555 posts)
49. Good for her
Thu Oct 31, 2024, 07:36 AM
Oct 31

Wish her good luck wtih her chemistry studies.
That course in college was a real struggle for me. Not the lab parts the other stuff, valence levels and the like.
Now my wife didn't pursue a liberal arts type degree because that would have been hard. She did chemistry and later developed a chemical storage system based on reactivity to store them.

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