My son is suspicious of the idea of Father's Day. Why would he want to celebrate the lesser of his two parents?

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https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/jun/16/fathers-day-is-a-special-time-to-celebrate-your-dadbut-for-my-son-thats-a-bit-of-a-stretch

My son is suspicious of the idea of Father’s Day. Why would he want to celebrate the lesser of his two parents?

Séamas O’Reilly

I’m aware of sounding a bit desperate as I explain the concept to him

Sun 16 Jun 2024 05.11 EDT

‘Who says it’s Father’s Day?’ my son says to me, with the questioning glare of someone who’s been told they have extra tax to pay. ‘Well, the world does,’ I tell him, suddenly self-conscious. I feel like I’m pitching the idea of a global celebration of my greatness to a panel on Dragons’ Den. ‘It’s like a feast day,’ I say, ‘a special day for daddies.’

Something about this – I can’t think what – comes out sounding quite desperate and he looks at me as if I’ve just suggested he prove his love for me with a face tattoo. It’s a look of suspicion, but also of deep and tender concern for my mental state.

This is his fifth Father’s Day, so I can’t help feeling slightly wounded that the concept hasn’t stuck with him. I also can’t help noting that he has never had any such issue with Mother’s Day, which has always seemed to him like common sense. A cynic might note that the event’s proximity to his own birthday – two weeks from now – is making things more difficult for him to abide. It would seem he finds it churlish that the run-up to his special day – a pre-festive period which, for him, began some time around January – should be interrupted so close to the finish line by a day that celebrates me, the lesser of his two parents. In any case, if he’s planning to make or gift me something, this conversation has been a masterstroke of expectation management.

‘So, will all daddies get a Father’s Day?’ he asks. ‘Yes,’ I reply, ‘and this isn’t new – it’s every year!’ I attempt to modulate my voice/offence, but also make it very clear I haven’t made this idea up on the spot by myself. ‘You’ve been doing it since you were born. And it’s been around longer than that. I get things for Grandad every year, too.’

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1. If you've worked and bought home the bacon (what fathers are supposed to do, at the least)...

along with teaching life lessons and other stuff, why is he feeling that fathers are the lesser parent?

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2. Because, at least in my day, the mom was there almost all the time and the dad only in the evening most days.

I was well aware that my mom ran the place for everyone. At that point Day was just one of the people who lived in the house.

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3. Yeah, dads are unappreiciated, but they made much of it possible.

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along with mom now with two-income families being a necessity to keep the wolf from the door.

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4. Agreed, but kids aren't into thinking beyond the moment usually.

Dad’s great but mom makes dinner. I suspect it has changed a lot from the 1950s.