Why small annoyances can harm us more than big disruptions

[Celerity]

A largely forgotten psychological concept helps explain the insidiousness of minor problems – and what to do about it

https://psyche.co/ideas/why-small-annoyances-can-harm-us-more-than-big-disruptions





Have you ever had that feeling in life when you pause to look around, and realise you don’t like what you see? Maybe you’ve been working in a vacuous job for years, renting in a noisy neighbourhood, or recognise that your romantic partnership has been devoid of connection for some time. How did I find myself here, you might wonder, how have I let this discontent last for so long? It’s as if you got stuck or complacent to such an extent that you’ve ended up languishing in a situation that you’re not happy in, sometimes for years. Why didn’t you act?

There’s a somewhat forgotten idea from psychology that can help explain why. It’s called the region-beta paradox, and it describes a common error people can make in predicting how long distress will last in response to a scenario. Everyone puts up with mild annoyances each day whether it be at your job, with your family, your habits, your living environment or your body. You brush them off, thinking: this isn’t so bad, so it can’t affect me for very long. I’m not going to move apartments over a lack of natural light, or quit my job because my boss sends emails Friday nights at 10 pm. These complaints are minor, how much distress could they cause me over time? It’s not like my apartment has bed bugs, or my boss screams at me.

These situations aren’t that bad, and so you don’t do anything about them, whether it be to take action or kickstart psychological processes to cope. This is the ‘beta region’ – the no-man’s land for circumstances that don’t prompt action or response (the terminology comes from different regions on a graph that describes the phenomenon). The paradox is that these more mild discomforts or relationships can end up lasting much longer and cause you more upset or damage than a situation, person or event that is more acutely upsetting, but which prompts you to take action to resolve it, so that the distress doesn’t last.

Here’s another example. Imagine you shatter your knee, compared with just bruising it and injuring it slightly. The more serious injury will last longer than the minor one, right? Not necessarily. If you shatter your knee, you have little choice but to go to the doctor, schedule surgery, and do physical therapy. You could be back to running marathons in a relatively short amount of time. In contrast, you might easily ignore your bruised knee and never attend to the underlying minor damage – maybe you live for years with a niggling pain, even a limp.

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